Snow Forts, Board Games, Handwashing in Space...

Time for another sampling of what we get up to in a month of unschooling!

Reading

• One day we were having a particularly grumpy morning, and once I'd fed everyone and it was still going badly, I got myself and the kids all into the big bed with a stack of library books. We read about the Hindenburg, the fall of Troy, The Three Golden Oranges, how to make kites, and a bit about airships in general. P read a bit more of Savvy when she wasn't fully engrossed in the other stories, but that was a minority of the time. She's also been reading Savvy in bed some nights.

• One night I was trying to get the kids to bed early because both had colds. We did toothbrushing and such right after dinner so we wouldn't leave it too late. When it was time to hop in bed, I said, "T, I have a book about volcanoes here!" (from the library). He replied eagerly, "I want to read it!" So all three of us read the book together, with many, many pauses for questions and for puzzling out the diagram of the Earth's tectonic plates and what their motions were. We talked about oceanic spreading centers (the mid-Atlantic ridge and the East Pacific rise) and how new seafloor forms there, and the abyssal hill shapes that form as the plates spread apart. We talked about earthquakes, volcanoes, and mountain building as activities that all are common along plate boundaries.
• P and I read part of a graphic novelette (long for a picture book, but short for a graphic novel) about events in the Netherlands around World War II. I think it was going to intersect with the story of Anne Frank, but we didn't make it through before it was due back at the library. 
• I'm reading On the Banks of Plum Creek out loud to both kids. The Little House books are evergreen here!
• After a couple of failures, I finally found an anatomy book aimed well for us. It includes the anatomy of various body systems in quite a nice level of detail, and it has sections on how body systems work and on common ailments. It's close to what I was looking for, a sort of owner's manual for the human body. It's missing a troubleshooting section, but the Internet's probably a more complete and up-to-date source for that than we'd find in a book, between WebMD, the Mayo Clinic, and many other sites of varying reliability. One day I was looking at a disarticulated view of the skull, and P asked me about it. We talked about skull sutures, and how many of them form well after birth, and how this relates to fontanelles, the safe handling of babies, and how strange their heads can look immediately after a vaginal birth. We also looked at the bones of the middle ear and how they connect to each other, the inner ear, and the eardrum.
• At a 5-for-a-dollar children's book sale at a nearby library, we bought 51 books. The kids weren't into looking through the many tables, so mostly they sat and read together (P reading to T, or both looking/reading silently) while I picked out things they might like. For that price, you can do a lot of throwing everything to the wall and seeing what sticks! One great find was a 1962 volume from a Collier's junior collection. My parents had this collection as a companion set to the 1966 encyclopedia I grew up with. I have fond memories of the whole set. The volume we found, Gifts From the Past, contains long and short excerpts from classic novels -- Twain, Austen, Swift, Dickens, Kipling, Alcott, and more. They're mostly at a level (because of vocabulary and complex sentence structure, or archaic subject matter) that works much better read out loud, with chances to ask questions and discuss, than P reading to herself. I was surprised at how much the kids enjoyed the excerpts I've read to them so far (from Little Women, Tom Sawyer, and The Swiss Family Robinson). We decided to read Little Women out loud in its entirety, since we have a nice version with illustrations and P found it particularly entertaining. P noticed that one of the illustrations of the Marsh family, all gathered around Marmee in an upholstered chair, was strikingly similar to an illustration in Meet Molly, an American Girl book we found at the sale (set during WWII) that P has been reading on her own. We compared the two and wondered whether one might be a model for the other, or both based on some other illustration we haven't seen.

The set I had as a child. Gifts From the Past is #10.

• Other books from the book sale that have seen some use already: a book on the musculoskeletal system; one on making and performing stage magic tricks; a long picture book entirely in iambic heptameter; several picture story books, including one detailing how to make a hat from wheat straw and an exquisitely illustrated version of The Emperor's New Clothes; a book of riddles (in the style of those in The Hobbit, rather than the usual childhood Q&A puns); and a Barbie book with cleverly-done sliding pieces that change the pictures.
• T is interested in reading. He's noticing and paying attention more to how words on the page match up with what we read aloud, and when UnschoolerDad reads to him, T likes to read some of the words himself. It's fascinating to watch the interest unfold without direct instruction. We show T what words say sometimes, especially when he asks. Sometimes he wants to write something and has us write an example he can copy. Recently I was making signs for a cookie-selling booth, and he wanted me to pencil one for him to color in, too, so I did. When he's sitting next to me and playing on an iPad, he'll often ask which button does what he needs, and if I tell him what the right button says and how to spell it, he likes finding the right button by looking at the words on the various buttons. He plays a game called Kinectimals sometimes, and there's a screen in this game that tells you the status of the virtual animal you're playing with (Dirty, Lonely, Happy, Playful, etc.). Sometimes T holds up this screen and asks, "Is Sandy dirty?" He's usually right when he guesses.

Doing

• P continues to enjoy playing Minecraft and researching how to do interesting things in the game. She watches videos on the Minecraft wiki and enjoys telling me about them. They show things like how to build an elevator using a quirk in the interface for using a boat; or another elevator design using sticky pistons to push stairs together. P has done most of her Minecraft play so far in Creative Mode, in which all basic resources are provided, so you can build at top speed; but lately she's been playing in survival mode (where you have to find your own resources for building and crafting things), and showing a lot of pride in the things she manages to build there. She still plays only in peaceful mode, with no monsters and therefore no dangers aside from falling or drowning (she's been steering clear of lava). From my experience in the game, I know that some useful objects can only be obtained by killing monsters, and some mineral resources can only be mined near lava. It'll be interesting to see how her risk tolerance within the game evolves if she continues playing in survival mode.
• P and T have both given the mobile game Dragon Box a try. It's a game that introduces concepts related to simplifying algebraic equations, but in pretty non-mathematical looking form (unless, like me, you're a former math teacher who's played a lot with concrete and symbolic approaches, and not only the conventional abstract approaches). Gradually things get more complex, and more mathematical symbols get introduced. T reaches his frustration level pretty fast. P goes a little farther. It's fun to watch -- I actually improved my own scores in the game by watching what P had figured out.
• I've been drying several different kinds of fruit in our dehydrator. T has been hesitant to try most of them, but P is enjoying them so much, perhaps he'll catch some of her enthusiasm. P doesn't like pineapple, but she loves apple slices that have been dipped in pineapple juice and then dried. Dried banana slices have gone over big not only with P, but with some of the other girls in her Brownie troop; and just about everyone likes our current form of fruit leather, made from an antioxidant-rich berry blend plus bananas.
• P has decided to sign up for the next term of her aerial dance class. She's having fun, and I'm glad, partly because I find the parents at the aerial dance classes much more laid-back and friendly than those at the gymnastics classes at the same gym. I shared this observation with another mom at aerial dance, and she heartily agreed. I think the kids are also more motivated by fun, learning, beauty, and personal improvement than driven by competition with each other.
• P is selling girl scout cookies. It's her first year in scouting, and this is her first experience with door-to-door sales. Her first day out was successful, and once she quit selling for the afternoon, she went bike riding and made a new friend on our block: the granddaughter of her biggest cookie customer, as it happened. Before setting out, P wrote down what different numbers of boxes of cookies (up to 12 boxes) would cost at $3.50 each, doing the math once so she wouldn't have to do it on the fly, and we role-played some scenarios she might encounter going door to door. We talked in between houses, refining her pitch and approach. She's also done some booth sales more recently at grocery stores, working with other girls from her troop.
• P and I built a snow fort after a snowstorm that left 10 inches or so of powdery snow. It didn't pack as easily as I'd hoped, but P turns out to be better than I am at building snow walls, so it still worked out.
• We've been playing lots of board games, especially games with a cooperative theme. I'm finding I have much more patience for complicated board games when they are cooperative rather than competitive. Getting to the end and winning or losing together just seems like a a better use of time than establishing a winner and losers, and the experience is more shared. Some we've played recently are Forbidden Island, Castle Panic, Pandemic, and Dixit. Forbidden Island is a simpler version of Pandemic (which we already owned) by the same game designer with a different theme (destruction and collective loss occur by flooding rather than the spread of disease). P went to a workshop run by a friend of mine, who uses the game as a way to spark creative writing with kids 8 and up. Dixit is not cooperative, but there's a lot of potential for creativity in the game. T doesn't always have the attention span to finish a game, but as he understands the game more, he gets more interested.

Making

• We found a site where there are paper patterns you can print out and assemble into various toys. We built a paper trebuchet from there, and both kids enjoyed trying it out with different projectiles. P has a large collection of craft sticks and likes building things with them, so since the paper trebuchet wasn't very robust, perhaps we'll try with craft sticks next.

• P has been folding origami, sometimes of her own design and sometimes from patterns. She asks for help a lot when working from instructions. Sometimes we fold a model side by side, with me following the instructions and P following me. I try to point out how the instructions show what I'm doing, so she can eventually follow them more easily herself; but I try to make sure I help when she's getting frustrated. Recently P and T have come to me a few times, when I was working in the kitchen, and said that they're having fun folding origami from instructions on their own. Origami books from the library have been great for this, so they can try new models.

Writing

• P persisted and finished her Christmas thank-you notes, all but one handwritten (I scribed the other in email according to what P asked me to say). She is noticing out loud how much easier it is getting to spell the words she wants to use, and she is proud to show off her handwriting. She wants to hand-write party invitations, too (see last category below).
• As noted above, P did a creative writing workshop with the board game Forbidden Island.

Watching

• In the past few months we've bought two DVD sets of shows for the kids, and just recently they've been watching lots from both sets. One set is the complete Magic School Bus episodes. They've watched the majority of them now. T likes to watch the same one several times, especially certain episodes like the one about salmon migrating. Based on comments he makes about things later, I think he's picking up a lot of information. P definitely is. 
• The other set is Be The Creature, a Kratt Brothers series aimed at a slightly older audience than Wild Kratts. The episodes are longer, and they're all live-action, about real animals, rather than fantasy-cartoon plots related to the animals. P is more interested in them than T at this point, though sometimes T watches too. One day we were trying to think of an animal that wakes and sleeps when it wants to, without a particular nocturnal, diurnal, or crepuscular pattern. Lions came to mind -- I don't know whether they are awake much at night, but they sleep 20 hours most days, and given that they're successful only about 30% of the time on their hunts, waking hours may be opportunistic. P supplied the hours-of-sleep figure based on a Be The Creature episode about lions.
• We got a great recommendation for a curated website, The Kid Should See This. We've enjoyed watching many short videos here, and sometimes following up with more detail on the subjects they touch on. Recently we've watched videos about life on the International Space Station (how to wash your hands in space was particularly mind-blowing for me!), elaborate marble runs made from just cardboard and cardstock, gut microbes, various dance styles, huge art installations, bird flocking behaviors, and many other topics. A couple of the videos came from TED-Ed, which has also been fun to explore.

Listening

• I find that the kids, particularly P, quickly start echoing songs if I sing them as I clean up around the house and the kids play. Even if they're not fully tuned in, they're picking up the melodies. If they like the songs, I sing them while helping brush teeth, so they can pick up the words for themselves.
• I've been noticing recently that P seems more attuned to my thoughts and feelings than she used to be. She is quicker to pick up on my meaning when I talk to her, and more readily apologizes when appropriate. I think she's passing a developmental milestone and getting better at seeing others' viewpoints, without their needing to be spelled out completely. She's also getting better at playing peacefully with T, at least when she wants to. Sometimes fatigue or hunger or the desire to do something else still sends the games off the rails; I try to step in with food or other aid before things go bad when I can see those times coming, or step in quickly afterward if I miss the early signs. We're all getting better at keeping the peace, bit by bit.
• On Sirius Book Radio in the car recently, we heard a couple of excerpts from Danielle Steele's book, Echoes. The parts we heard were about the experiences of a young Christian woman (a Carmelite nun, actually) sent to a concentration camp in Poland during WWII, and later rescued and recruited into the French Resistance. P was very disappointed to turn off the radio when we reached our destination and needed to go inside. She really wanted to hear the end of that story. I assured her that we would be able to find a similar story, or that one, sometime soon. I wonder if she'd enjoy Marge Piercy's Gone to Soldiers, my favorite WWII historical fiction so far. It spans Jewish ghettoes, concentration camps, Jewish refugees in the United States (and how few of them were allowed in), WACS, the French Resistance, and other facets of experience in different places during the war.

Talking

• Or not talking, as the case may be. We're in a phase now where one or both kids often have a hard time answering the question, "What would you like to eat?" Often, if I know they're likely to be hungry, I'll fix up a plate with one to four different things, at least some of which I'm pretty sure they'll enjoy, and just put it down where they are, without asking whether they want food or if so, what kind.  This is usually met with hungry enthusiasm. One evening recently, I set down a plate with two toasted-cheese sandwiches, a bunch of baby carrots, and some dip. P said to T, who reached for the carrots first, "Don't eat all the carrots!" Discouraged as I get sometimes about their eating enough fruits or veggies or a wide enough variety of food, it really is happening that sometimes they prefer carrots to toasted cheese sandwiches. Or apples to sweetened dried fruits. Or smoked salmon with cream cheese on crackers to... whatever other food it was they were considering before I got out the salmon. When I stay on top of their hunger so they don't get carb-desperate, the proteins and plant-based foods do make it in. (Note to self: Breathe in, breathe out.)
• T continues to ask questions, and sometimes to talk about his own ideas, concerning volcanoes, how they form, how and when they erupt, etc. P likes talking with him about what she knows, and I help out when I can contribute more information or clear up confusion. 
• In a recent conversation about the planets and their orbits, we talked about the geocentric and heliocentric models of the solar system, and how things like the apparent retrograde motion of some planets made it hard to justify the geocentric model, once people started considering the heliocentric model. (Retrograde was the only one of these big words that actually got used in the conversation.)
• Both kids have been talking about their dreams a lot. They compare notes on efforts to turn bad dreams into good dreams, or at least get themselves to wake up from them. Both seem to have predominantly pleasant dreams, and they enjoy telling the stories of them.
• I ran across the parlor game "Coffeepot" in the book Unbored. In this game, the word coffeepot stands in for a secret noun or verb, and questions are asked to discover what the word is. For example, one exchange tonight when only P knew the secret word (window) went, "What do you do when you're too cold at night?" "I make sure the coffeepots are closed and turn up the heat." It's fun to decide how obvious to make the hints, and to watch the reasoning process involved in the questioning and guessing. I floated the idea of playing "Coffeepot" via email -- it could be a fun asynchronous game to play with friends far away, and email threads could preserve the history of questions and answers, so total recall over several days wouldn't be important.

Visiting

• We visited the zoo and had a chance to see the lion feeding-time demonstration -- two male lions being fed and going through the behaviors they are trained in to allow veterinarians and keepers to care for them without ever being on the same side of the fence or glass with them. P and T saw primary (food) and secondary (whistle) reinforcers in action and saw two very different lions, litter mates, in action. The first, who was highly motivated by food, was intensely focused as he went through his paces. The second, who was motivated more by his brother, was more relaxed and less in touch with the keeper. Both got their food (nine pounds each of raw meat plus whatever was mixed in with it), and we got to see two lions do some truly awe-inspiring stuff, like standing up against the barrier fence to give the keeper a look at their bellies and paws -- they stood seven or eight feet high! Later that evening I was reading a story about wildlife with T. On hearing about an animal who was scared of humans, T reminded me that the lions' keeper had told us the lions were scared of "two-headed people," meaning adults with children on their shoulders. I think it really made an impression on T that an animal so large and powerful could be scared of him.
• T and I had a rare chance to take an unhurried trip together to the grocery store. We scrutinized the baked goods and found some delicious goodies made of ingredients we could live with. We looked at the fish counter, learning what mussels, oysters, and clams look like, and bought a whole trout to bring home so we could get a better look. We learned that trout have even spinier tongues than cats, which must be handy when you have no hands or claws to help hold the prey you've caught to eat. (P tried a taste later, when it was cooked, and said it wasn't bad; T really didn't want to taste it, saying he wanted to get the fish for me and Daddy to eat.) T considered spending some of his allowance on something from the toy aisle, but there was nothing he really loved, so for the first time in months, he was willing to save his money for something he'd really love, and he left the store without being upset about it and enjoyed the treats we had bought. I try hard to let him have experiences on both sides of the spending/saving choice, but ultimately the decision about whether to spend his allowance is up to him (though sometimes we leave without buying something because we're out of time), and mostly he chooses spending. Now he'll have a data point on the other side, of what it felt like to save his money for something he wants more, without being coerced to save.

Thinking, Asking Questions, Planning...

• T has been asking lots of questions about space and astronomy. One evening he wanted to know how long it took a rocket to get from the launch pad into space. So we looked up how high space was considered to start (around 100 km above sea level was a good reference point). Then I said different rockets might take different amounts of time to get there, so T said he wanted to know about the most recent Mars rover mission. I looked up the launch sequence for the Mars Science Laboratory (MSL), and we found that it took around 3.5 minutes to cross the 100-km altitude. We talked about how heavy astronauts would feel if they rode on a rocket accelerating so rapidly. Then T wanted to watch several videos about the MSL. He also asked whether all planets had day and night, and I said they did, but some were very long (Uranus's day is the same length as its year because of the extreme tilt of its axis, so its days and nights are akin to those at Earth's poles; and Mercury's day is 176 Earth days long because of Mercury's slow rotation). Later that night I overheard more talk about planets and their orbits as UnschoolerDad was putting T to bed.
• P and I watched an episode of Little House on the Prairie, one in which both Nellie and Laura/Mary had parties at their homes. We noticed that neither party had special activities planned, though there were special foods; the parties just took advantage of the greater number of people to play games that work best with several people involved. I suggested that, instead of trying to have a grand theme for our next party, we simply come up with a list of things P and T like to do that work better with more than three people (which is typically what we have available here), and invite over some people we'd like to do some of those things with. We made a list, both adding items. I added two of my favorite six-or-more party games, Pictionary and Taboo. P didn't know what they were, so I explained them. One thing led to another, and we ended up talking about what the word taboo means, some examples of taboos in our society, and the concept of sacredness as it relates to taboos (e.g., one might not say certain words to a priest, though one might use them frequently among friends). Now we have a list of activities, a list of friends, and a growing list of possible party foods; we're just waiting until we all get over our colds to plan a party.
• One day, on a longish car ride, P and T suddenly had a slew of questions about reproduction and marriage. Can people marry in threes? (We talked about legal marriages, extralegal arrangements that the folks involved might consider similar to marriage, marriage in other countries.) T asked if the laws about marriage were different in different states, and we talked about the changes in same-sex marriage laws in recent years. They asked about how two men could have a baby (we touched on adoption, surrogacy, and sperm donation, finally summarizing that the creation of a baby requires an egg, a sperm, and a woman to go through pregnancy, but that these could come from two to three different people, and sometimes those who parent the child aren't any of them). We talked about the differences between adoption and fostering children, and why children might need foster homes. That led to questions about the age at which you go from being a child to an adult (we talked about differing laws for drinking, voting, serving in the military, getting a job, and generally being considered a legal adult, and also about terms like baby/child/teenager/adult vs. legal dichotomies like child/adult and the idea that one is always the child of one's parents, even when one is an adult).
• We finally bought a globe this month, to add to our large world map hanging on the wall. This has led to interesting explorations and questions. Why is Boulder on the globe and not the larger world map? What does Antarctica look like? Which way does the Earth turn? What are those lines all about? What about the historic ships pictured in the oceans? When it's daytime here, where it is nighttime? T also likes the slight bumpiness on the globe in mountainous regions. One day, at a big library, we found a larger globe, mounted in a gimbal, so it could rotate along two axes, unlike our globe. He wanted to know what would happen if the Earth really spun on both those axes. That led to interesting talk about how the Earth isn't really rotating on a pin, but just spinning in space. (Having watched the space station videos helped with this idea -- T could imagine setting a globe just spinning in the air on the space station.) We also tried spinning the globe at a fairly uniform rate on each of its axes simultaneously, and saw that it sort of appeared to rotate along a third axis as a result, but it was hard to tell for sure. (I think you can just add rotations as vectors, but my physics is a little rusty there, and I'm not sure how it works when one of the rotations is along an axis that is itself rotating. This will bear more thought!)